When Can Grandparents Get Custody of or Visitation with their Grandchildren?

Over the years, I have spoken with dozens of grandparents who are desperate to protect their grandchildren or to have a relationship with their grandchildren over the objection of the grandchild’s biological parent(s). 

While taking judicial action to establish a custodial right to grandchildren is not impossible, first and foremost, it is imperative to understand that biological parents have a constitutional right to the care, custody, and control of their minor children. However, there are circumstances under which a grandparent can seek custody or visitation with their grandchildren. In North Carolina, there are four statutes that let a grandparent maintain an action or proceeding for custody or visitation of a child (N.C.G.S. §50-13.1(a); N.C.G.S. §50-13.2(b2); N.C.G.S. §50-13.2A; N.C.G.S. § 13.5(j)).

In order for grandparents to initiate an action for child custody, they must show by the greater weight of the evidence that both biological parents are unfit, have abandoned or neglected the child, have died, or have otherwise acted inconsistent with their constitutionally protected status. Grandparents cannot maintain an action for custody by simply showing that the minor child(ren) would be better served in the grandparent’s custody. Some examples of acting inconsistent with their constitutional right include but are not limited to, child abuse, child neglect, voluntary relinquishment of custody of the child(ren) if it is the intent of the parent(s) that it be permanent, failure to care for the child(ren), and drug abuse.

If the grandparents are successful, the court is then able to move on to a “best interest” standard, essentially placing the grandparents on equal footing with the biological parents and determining custody of the minor child by considering who will best support the physical, emotional, social and spiritual growth and well-being of the child(ren). 

Grandparents may also try to intervene in an ongoing custody dispute between the biological parents. In order to intervene, there must be an ongoing custody case between the natural parents (e.g., the parents are not in an intact family), and they must show by the greater weight of the evidence that the grandparents have a substantial relationship with the minor child(ren). North Carolina statute does not define “a substantial relationship” as it pertains to grandparents. However, cases have found that a substantial relationship exists when the children regularly visit in the grandparents’ home, especially overnight.

It is critical to file a motion to intervene before the case is resolved by settlement agreement or court order. If the case is resolved prior to the grandparents intervening, unless the grandparents can meet the requirements for standing to file an initial custody action, they may have to wait to intervene and seek visitation when and if the custody matter is reopened. 

However, in the event that the biological parents live in an intact family and grandparents cannot prove parental unfitness or misconduct, grandparents do not have standing to seek custody of or visitation with the minor child(ren) in North Carolina. 

It is imperative that you speak to a licensed North Carolina attorney as soon as possible if you are a grandparent seeking to initiate an action regarding custody, intervene in an ongoing action, or are a parent involved in a custody case involving a third party. Contact Routh Law to schedule a consultation to discuss these issues today.